It’s no secret that being left on read by a hot date is one of the most crushing experiences a human can go through, but finding the positives in being ghosted can help ease this pain and allow you to move on quicker.
After two dates, I was ghosted by a stunning man that had my delusional hopes of a happy relationship running wild. Even though he seemed to suggest plans to go thrifting together at the end of our last meeting, the prospect of a third date imploded much like the submarine tour of the Titanic. We didn’t talk for about a week, and when I finally decided to be strong and text him again, he only responded once before leaving me on read for the rest of eternity.
Stage One: Sadness
I’ll be honest, the experience was somewhat devastating. Yes, it was only two dates, but for a boy like me who averages one date per calendar year, he was basically my husband. What hurts the most is that he was potentially the hottest guy I’ve ever met. 6’6, muscular, blue eyes, good style. In the sea of hideous and downright scary gay men I see on dating apps, he was the equivalent of the mesmerizing sirens that sailors see after being stuck on a ship for years.
Stage Two: Finding the Positives in Being Ghosted
Realistically, he wasn’t even that great. The amount of spelling and grammar errors he made while texting was borderline disturbing, and in the roughly three week period that we were talking, he got his bike stolen twice. Obviously that’s not really his fault, but maybe it kind of is? I don’t know but I don’t want to date someone who’s prone to theft.
Stage Three: Inevitable Defeat
Listen, I know I’m being really strong and brave about finding the positives, but I lied. This has ruined me. Love is not real and I have no choice but to give up on dating. You probably should too.
